How to Stick to the Goals on Your Agenda
Did you ever struggle to stick to your goals? Have you ever had a great vision but gave up working on it? You set your deadline, you had a plan but you got lost along the way? Or you even did not start at all?
I'll tell you why such things happen and show you how you can stay on the grind without losing touch to your dreams.
Everything you do has a higher purpose. Of course, you have goals and dreams. But ask yourself: Why do you have that dream?
It's not that you want to lose weight for example. You want to lose weight because you want to fit in your red bikini again. Or because you want to be able to take the stairs without being out of breath. Or because you want to be able to play with your kids again. It can be everything.
It's the picture inside your head that you dream of all the time. Reflect on yourself: When you think of that goal, which picture comes to your head? Be honest to yourself.
And this is also where you maybe failed.
Last time you tried to reach a goal, did you think of the numbers or of the higher purpose of it? If you lose connection to your higher purpose, you lose connection to your goal and finally you simply lose.
So, next time you want to reach a goal, find out what drives you. Then use it to gain never ending momentum towards your goal.
How do you do that? You have to visualize that higher purpose repeatedly. It's not enough that you know it – you have to see it as if it was reality right now.
An easy way is: Print out pictures that embody your vision.
If your higher purpose was to be able to take the stairs without problems, find pictures with a fit person running up some stairs.
Be creative. If you don't want to print something out, you can also draw it. It's just important that you have something to see that you associate with your higher purpose.
You should place those pictures where you can see them several times every day so you're always reminded why you do what you do.
Ideally, they're at a place where they're the first thing you see when you wake up and the last thing you see when you go to bed.
So, the first and the last thought of your day is the higher purpose of your goals – the things you are working for every day.
The Reverse Gap
Another way to stick to your goals on your agenda without losing track is called “the reverse gap” which was first brought up by Dan Sullivan. It's a technique to increase happiness in the now while shooting for a goal.
In many cases people give up because their goal seems too far away. They only see the way they still have to go. Therefore, they feel overwhelmed and quit.
They tie their happiness to that goal so they can only be happy when they have reached that goal (“I am happy when I have my million dollars”).
The problem is: If they finally reach that goal, there comes a new one.
The happiness is again shifted into the future to that next goal. As a result, people are always unhappy while struggling to reach that next goal - to allow themselves to be happy.
When people compare their present state to their goal, there is a gap between the now and the future. This makes unhappy, disappointed and creates overwhelm.
The solution: The reverse gap. Using the reverse gap, you look back and see how far you've come by now.
Thus, you acknowledge your accomplishments, no matter how little they may be.
Now you have a gap between your past and your present. You see what you can do and can go on to do - by that what you have already done. This makes you happier and keeps you away from overwhelm while reaching your goals.
Now it's your turn again. Set yourself a goal attached to its higher purpose.
Visualize it every day. And then just move. As soon as you feel overwhelmed or unhappy or you think your goal is too far away: look back and see how far you've come. Celebrate every step you've taken further to your goal and keep marching on.
If you want to know more about using the reverse gap and creating happiness by looking back, check out my article “How to become happier & better every day”.
About the Author
Maurice Leibinn is the creator of Productive Energy Management – a method that helps people get a maximum amount of results in a minimum of time while sustaining their energy and avoiding any kind of overwhelm.
He is a productivity Coach serving serving overworked entrepreneurs and professionals. Read more...